Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

It's All About Love!

What is life REALLY all about? It's all about love! But what does this mean?Most people, when thinking about love, think about BEING LOVED. But, as an adult, the deeper soul's journey is not about being loved - it is about BEING LOVING. For small children... Read >

Relationships: The Art of Listening

In 1974, Dr. Virginia Satir presented the concept of mirroring in her groundbreaking book, "Conjoint Family Therapy."In 1975 Dr. Thomas Gordon wrote a best-selling book called "Parent Effectiveness Training." In the book he taught parents to "active liste... Read >

Relationships: The Dance of Victims and Perpetrators

"He is always blaming me for the bad things that happen in his life, and then he tells me it's my controlling him that is making him so angry. He yells at me and puts me down rather than deal with his own feelings. How can I get him to see that he is the ... Read >

The Power of Positive Thinking - Does it Work to Manifest?

I was recently at home of a friend's daughter and she had affirmations taped on the walls everywhere."Are these helpful to you?" I asked."Not really," she answered. "I do them all the time but they don't seem to be doing anything. I've read about the law ... Read >

Love Asks for Nothing

"We 'love' another in order to get something ourselves….There can be no greater mistake than that, for love is incapable of asking for anything."  -- A Course in Miracles"Love is incapable of asking for anything." Wow! Take a moment to think about that... Read >

Happiness and Financial Success - Which Comes First?

Which statement do you believe is the most true? Happiness brings you financial successFinancial success brings you happinessYou might be surprised to learn that research suggests the first statement to be the most true. Again, which statement to you beli... Read >

Getting Love, Being Loving

Take a moment right now to think about your real intention when it comes to love: Is it most important to you to get someone to love you - to get love? Is it more important to you to be a loving person - to give love to yourself and others?At any moment,... Read >

Real Love: What is Real Love?

Most people would love to have "real love," yet often they have no idea what real love is. Take a moment to think about how you would define real love.Defining love is like defining a particular color to a person who has never been able to see color - you... Read >

Love: Is This Romance or is This Friendship?

James, in his middle 30s, was ready to meet his life partner, get married and have children. After dating many women, he met Cindy. "She is really beautiful, although I'm not sure she's my type. But I think she is perfect for me. We have the same inte... Read >

Cinderella Was Not Saved - She Was a Happy Person All Along!

Would the prince have chosen Cinderella to marry if she was a miserable young woman? If her stepsisters were beautiful but miserable, would he have chosen either of them?Are you living under the delusion that when you meet your soul mate you will finally ... Read >

The Meaning of Life

Some say that the purpose of life is to seek happiness. Is happiness the purpose, or is happiness the result of another purpose? Is happiness the meaning of life, or is happiness the result of discovering what has heart and meaning for you? There i... Read >

Diet, Anxiety and Depression

Marianne consulted with me because of anxiety and depression. She had tried various forms of medication but was not reacting well to any of the drugs. She was exhausted from lack of sleep, and from the intense anxiety that kept waking her up. While there ... Read >

The Calm Mind

"The more tranquil a [person] becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good. Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom." --James Allen, 1864-1912, Author of As A Man Thinketh Of all the challenges in life, calmn... Read >

Love: Falling in Love With Your Spouse - Again

Bobbie and Mac sought me out for couples counseling because they were on the verge of divorce - after 25 years of marriage. Both had years of counseling, yet they could not find their way through their relationship problems.Bobbie described her experience... Read >

Emotional Incest: Will He or She Change?

Sharon, one of the members of our website, emailed me asking me to write more on abuse, particularly covert incest. She was in the process of ending her 4-year marriage with her covertly abusive husband, who is emotionally incestuous with his adult daught... Read >